I just came out to my mom

[kaiimac]

And, I suppose, to the rest of the world....I am so in a state of shock, relief, and anxiety..I just wanted to share this with everyone because I think it is going to make me a much healthier human being...I'll tell more about it later.

[JuggBug]

Good for you!

[FineExampl]

And how did mom take it? You should probably just tell everyone. Who cares nowadays?

[AmyJane]

Good for you! You're right, it will make you a healthier person and it will make you happier. Good luck! We're here if you need us! *HUGS*

[marvins_dad]

Not to be a neanderthal, but I always thought you were female based only on your Avatar.

Good for you...no one should have to live a lie.

[bugsy98nb]

good for ya Ryan (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

[lojasmo]

Yay! Good for you, bud.

[kellyshair]

hmmm

[iScott]

Cheers, Ryan.
I admire you're courage.

[kaiimac]

Wow, thanks for all the encouragement. As to, who cares nowadays? A lot of people. I am in therapy for how people treated me in high school (throwing things at me, threatening to kill me, etc) and I wasn't even out. My mom took it a lot better than I expected. I had no idea I was going to tell her. I just called to talk, and she was asking me some things about therapy..And I said there were some things I couldn't tell her. So she said I could tell her anything, blah blah blah...So I beat around the bush awhile until I just told her. I have been hiding it for 10 years and lying to her constantly. She said that she still loves me and that she is sorry I felt like I couldn't tell her sooner. However, she says she believes I can change, and she is going to pray every night for me to. She thinks that it is wrong, and she said she never wants to see it or hear about it. (I'm guessing she meant my relationships.) She has always told me that if I was gay, she wouldn't want to know or would send me off to a psychiatric christian camp thing...so, I guess this is about the most positive reaction I could have hoped for. I regret not having enough faith in her. Even though I am still upset and emotional, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. I have issues with social phobia/depression because I am afraid of speaking/walking/looking at people for fear they will think I'm gay. I am hoping this is a step in the right direction. It's just that 2 days ago I thought I would NEVER tell her. I am still in shock. I moved in Atlanta 2 years ago to escape East TN and live my life here...but it isn't so fun living a double life and lying to everyone back home. Now, I am somewhat free. Thank you guys for listening to my ramblings. I just don't really have anyone to talk to, and it is nice to have people to listen.

[BluMeanie]

Good for you!! No one should have to live a life that they dont feel fit. I'm afraid to tell my Mom Im moving out, I couldnt imagine having to tell her something like that!

[kaiimac]

Originally Posted by marvins_dad

Not to be a neanderthal, but I always thought you were female based only on your Avatar.

Good for you...no one should have to live a lie.

I know I was afraid ppl would think I was gay or a girl for it, and I have changed it back and forth a couple of times..but everytime I do, someone leaves me a rep saying "I loved your old avatar! whered it go?" So I figured, what the heck..

[niki]

Congrats to you! I am proud! I can only imagine how hard that would be!

[BUGINME]

Congrats to you!! Us moms are a lot more understanding then our kids think!!! You should be very proud of yourself!!

[Benny Beetle]

Congrats! I hope everything is going well... Mine was a bit bumpy for a couple years (I mean the closet exploded, against my will) Hang in there, things do get easier.

[The Cheat]

cheers, ryan.

[Beetlemania]

Congrats to you on being able to live life as you are!

My brother decided to tell my mom about him in a text message, after which he turned off his phone. Whether you meant to or not, at least you gave her the opportunity to react directly!

I'm quite sure this will help your life feel much more comfortable from now on.

[angelworks]

I am happy for you--no one should have to pretend they are someone else.

Now--rock on wit yer bad self!

[KatWoman]

Hope this helps you move on to better things for yourself now

[hoonbug]

Ryan,

Good for you!

Things will eventually calm down. As a bi dude, my family thought I was going through a phase which was sorted out by my getting married. I hope one day that marriage will be available to you as well, as it's been very good for me. Except when it sucks, but that's another post.

My best advice is tell your closest friends and family first, and then let the rumor network do its thing. I find that my dual earrings will give most people the clue they need to work it out if they don't already know. I'm sure that if you've gone through hell at high school, then most likely most folks have their gaydar triggered with you, which is good. Just be yourself, and have fun.

If you want a funny movie to watch about being trying to be "converted back", check out this z-grade film.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0179116/

I don't think your mum will ever stop trying to make you straight (as if it's possible). I know my parents didn't. Don't let it get you down. There's a number of GBLT and friendly folk here, so feel free to talk about anything if you're not getting the help you need.

ps. there are GLBT shrinks out there too, you don't have to put up with a therapist who is trying to cure you or (more commonly) has no real understanding of your issues.

thanks,
Andrew