A Question For the Wives on here

[boblamb58]

OK, indulge me...

Why is it, a husband gets up at 7:30am on his day off toget child no. 3 fed and off to school, goes out to get a few last-minute gifts for child no. one's birthday (tomorrow)vacuums the glitter off the livingroom rug, puts away last night'scard table that was left out back (after cleaning it off)does 3 loads of laundry, lays the dried shirts out on the bed as requested (I don't fold, can't do it right, usually leave themflat on the back of the couch so they don't wrinkle, but sincewe are having company tonight I was asked to lay them out on our bed) got the 2 that didn't have school today up earlier than usual for summer, made sure they got breakfast and lunch, made sure no. 1 got his summer project finished and did not play on the computer, PS2 or anything else... and yet, when child no. 1, who tunrs 13 tomorrow, gets a pair of birthday cards in the mail and dad gives said child the cards to open, he gets read the riot act?

One of you wives care to explain that to me?

[noR]

Hahaha, rough day Bob?

Good luck man, tomorrow will be better. (i hope)

[boblamb58]

Originally Posted by noR

Hahaha, rough day Bob?

Good luck man, tomorrow will be better. (i hope)

Nah, t'was easy until she came home from work

Thanks for the sentiments.. I work tomorrow 3-11, so prolly will not be an issue at all.

[ubugnme04]

I am divorced, not sure if I should respond, but I will say this, every time Scott (my boyfriend) is down visiting, I am very grateful for anything he does to help out. I rarely ask for him to help because he only gets 2 days off a week too, sometimes only 1, and in the end it's my responsibility, he doesn't live with me. A house is alot to deal with on my own when you take into consideration I work minimum 40 hours per week, there is the lawn, pool, laundry and general cleaning to get done. I don't get a full day off unless we go on vacation, when I am at home in my routine there is work to do every day. This morning I did a hours worth of chores before I came to work for 8am.

I will say in defense of your wife's jumping...sometimes we do stupid things and say stupid things and don't really mean it. I am good about apologizing for it though, it does happen, Scott will just look at me like I have two heads, and I realize I just jumped. I don't know what the situation is with your wife, but I think she owes you an apology. I have a "Don't open until your birthday rule" too, but....still she may have over reacted a bit. Question, what was she doing all day while you were doing all the house work....if she was at work, then I don't feel too bad about you helping around the house, I am sure she does it on her day off too. If she is a stay at home Mom, it's her responsibility (her job) to care for the home and family needs and if you want to help, more power to you, but she doesn't go to your job and do it....

Years ago when I was still married I bought this book that helped me see a lot of the mistakes I was making, and things got better for a while, but both parties have to want to make things better. He did some horrid things that just couldn't be looked past..things I won't post on here. The book is called "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, she also has a new book out called "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". Alot of women don't like her because she believes woman should stay at home and raise their children, take care of the home and care for and about their husband needs and said husband should be out busting his butt to take care of his family financially so that the wife can stay home. Alot of men don't like her because they want their wives helping pay the bills so they can have more money to play with. Anyhow, I won't keep running on here, and I am going to tell you if you buy her the book, she will probably be pissed at first, but ask her to read it as a favor to you. After the first or second chapter she will either see the light a little or tell you to put the book somewhere. Even if she doesn't agree with every point that Dr. Laura has, she will see the light a little if she reads the book.

Ok, there is my 2 cents x 1000

[boblamb58]

She worked all day. She's a nurse, works on average about 24 hours a week. I work 21 of every 28 days, rotating between 7-3, 11-7 and 3-11 shifts.

It'll blow over in a few hours. just pisses me off that of all the stuff I did manage to get done today, she's gotta go focus on the one I did wrong.

Oh, yeah, and I forgot to go pick up the birthday cake.. that should be OK, the shop is open while the kids are at soccer practice later.

[lojasmo]

You need to slowly start lowering her expectations. I never would have done any of that carp.

[Tommy]

ow boy, I am glad to be a single

[JuggBug]

Originally Posted by lojasmo

You need to slowly start lowering her expectations. I never would have done any of that carp.

Yeah, that's the way to a happy marriage! LOL

Sorry you had a bad day Bob. I for one, would have been very greatful to have my husband be so thoughtful and multi task the way you did. But then again, we ALL have bad days and sometimes the person that we end up taking our frustrations out on is the one person that it should least likely be......usually our better half.

Buck up Mr.! Tomorrow is another day for you to totally ruin!

[from Margaritaville...]

Apparently you didn't wait for the missus to get home so that she could watch her young'un open the cards that came in the mail.

Bad!, Boblamb, bad! bad!

(No, I'm not a wife...)

[dnyed]

Sorry. Not qualified to answer. I'm not a "wife" anymore.

[Interlinker]

I have a wife and she is like that once in a while. Usually when it is "that time of the month". Luckily she does not use that as a crutch though. Just let it go and everything will be fine dude!!!!

[SMG]

I've lived with my girlfriend for 4 years, legally we're commonlaw partners.

Anyway! Sometimes when I'm asked to do something I don't want to do, I do it poorly, so something about that task will bother her so she'll stop asking and want to do it herself.

Example: One time I did the dishes and used too much soap and filled it to the top of the sink with scalding water, in the process making about a foot of bubbles.

So after that, every time I had to do the dishes that's how I'd do it and now I don't have to do the dishes anymore.

[AmyJane]

Originally Posted by SMG

I've lived with my girlfriend for 4 years, legally we're commonlaw partners.

Anyway! Sometimes when I'm asked to do something I don't want to do, I do it poorly, so something about that task will bother her so she'll stop asking and want to do it herself.

Example: One time I did the dishes and used too much soap and filled it to the top of the sink with scalding water, in the process making about a foot of bubbles.

So after that, every time I had to do the dishes that's how I'd do it and now I don't have to do the dishes anymore.

I hope if and when you two have kids you're a little more helpful than that

[SMG]

I'm kind of hoping I'm sterile to be honest, but anyway, I'm the one who cooks so I didn't feel like doing the dishes too.

[AmyJane]

Originally Posted by SMG

I'm kind of hoping I'm sterile to be honest, but anyway, I'm the one who cooks so I didn't feel like doing the dishes too.

Well then that's different! I would do the dishes gladly if someone cooked for me! Pasta is the only thing my FH knows how to cook and frankly, I'm a bit sick of it

[FineExampl]

Originally Posted by CyberGreenBaby

Well then that's different! I would do the dishes gladly if someone cooked for me! Pasta is the only thing my FH knows how to cook and frankly, I'm a bit sick of it

That's what Steph does. I have done dishes once or twice i think since she moved in. I cook better anyway.

Bob...seriously man....write all of that down in a list with the most retarded attention to detail including approximate times as to when each task was completed. Than make a list of what you forgot. Than hand it to her and ask her to read it. Than ask her at what point did her day go wrong and than point out that it wasn't when she stepped through the door because youhad everything in the home under control.

It's BS for her to put a bad day on your shoulders. I hate when women do that. It's some genetic defect in women i suspect. Luckily i have the one woman who admits when she's a bit of a see you next tuesday.

Alternatively you can lock her in the trunk of her car for a month. By the time she gets out she won't be much able to complain cuz she'd have done way less than you.

[AmyJane]

Originally Posted by FineExampl

It's BS for her to put a bad day on your shoulders. I hate when women do that. It's some genetic defect in women i suspect. Luckily i have the one woman who admits when she's a bit of a see you next tuesday.

Ahem!! Women are not the only ones who take their bad days out on other people



I'm telling Steph!!!

[FineExampl]

Originally Posted by CyberGreenBaby

Ahem!! Women are not the only ones who take their bad days out on other people



I'm telling Steph!!!

But like SMG was saying, it's expected.

Seriously though, she may have just needed to vent. It's still BS though.

[angieisgroovy]

I would do anything for my husband to do all of that! Really....anything Laundry? Vacum? Come on over!

[AmyJane]

Originally Posted by FineExampl

But like SMG was saying, it's expected.

Seriously though, she may have just needed to vent. It's still BS though.

Whats expected?